Have you ever had a eureka moment, only to find out you completely missed the point?<\/p>\n
You see, when we start talking about problems we have, be it with a trusted friend or a coach, the issue is rarely the one we think<\/em> it is. Often, what we've identified as the problem is: a symptom, a byproduct of another challenge or even the remnant of an old issue that we ended up identifying with (\"that's just the way I am\"). I'll put my hand up, I've had that happen more times than I care to remember! Heck, for the better part of two decades I was convinced that the reason I was overweight was because of a slow metabolism! I was completely oblivious to the fact that I used food as a coping mechanism to deal with...everything! Instead of working on ways to deal with my emotions, I spent my precious energy and resources going on every diet under the sun (and failing miserably).<\/p>\n 1. It's tempting to bring up the entire cast of your life to the discussion, but stay focused on YOU<\/strong>. Yes, that means using \"I\" (no royal \"we\" ) when describing the situation. 2. Get specific and stay away from generalisations: \"I've been reading on my Myers Briggs personality type and it reminded me of this video I watched on the impact of being the second born, blah blah\". What's the real challenge for you right now?<\/strong> So the next time you're tempted to jump to \"fixing\" things, take a few moments to slow down, ground yourself, and make sure that you are focusing on the right problem. I promise, with a little of practice, this can be a game changer.<\/p>\n For more articles like this one, be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter<\/a> here. Are we connected on social? You can find me on Instagram<\/a>, Facebook<\/a> and LinkedIn<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever had a eureka moment, only to find out you completely missed the point? You see, when we start talking about problems we have, be it with a trusted friend or a coach, the issue is rarely the one we think it is. Often, what we've identified as the problem is: a symptom, a byproduct […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":6412,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,32,38],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nSo how do you make sure you're focusing on the right problem?<\/h3>\n
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