{"id":6165,"date":"2021-05-19T06:38:40","date_gmt":"2021-05-19T06:38:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fadelahilali.com\/?p=6165"},"modified":"2022-07-26T11:02:21","modified_gmt":"2022-07-26T11:02:21","slug":"why-do-we-resist-doing-things-that-make-us-feel-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fadelahilali.com\/why-do-we-resist-doing-things-that-make-us-feel-better\/","title":{"rendered":"Why do we resist doing things that make us feel better?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n
This week, we're talking about something that not many people will admit out loud.<\/p>\n

And that is that there are times in our lives when we know exactly<\/em> what we could do to make ourselves feel better and yet, we don't want to do it.<\/p>\n

That resistance to feel better can manifest as a lack of energy, fear, demotivation, sadness, anger, or even frustration.<\/p>\n

But why do we resist doing things that make us feel better?<\/p>\n

Do we just like to suffer? Are we weak? Do we lack the willpower gene? Is there something wrong with us?<\/p>\n

No, no to all of the above.<\/p>\n

This MO is not an indicator of our worth or strength of character. It is possibly an adaptive behaviour that we've developed throughout our life without even realising it.<\/p>\n

I did a video on the topic where I share my experience. You can watch it on Instagram<\/a> or Facebook<\/a>.
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The good news is that any behaviour can be changed. But be warned, changing this one will unlikely look or feel revolutionary, quite the opposite \ud83d\ude42 And that's a good thing!<\/p>\n

So let's give it our best shot by approaching the situation from a place of SELF-SUPPORT, not self-criticism.<\/p>\n

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If you would like support on journey, I offer 1-2-1 coaching<\/a> as well as an online group experience, The Confidence Bootcamp<\/a>. Book your free discovery session<\/a> today!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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