May 19, 2021 Fadela Hilali

Why do we resist doing things that make us feel better?

resist things that make us feel better
This week, we’re talking about something that not many people will admit out loud.

And that is that there are times in our lives when we know exactly what we could do to make ourselves feel better and yet, we don’t want to do it.

That resistance to feel better can manifest as a lack of energy, fear, demotivation, sadness, anger, or even frustration.

But why do we resist doing things that make us feel better?

Do we just like to suffer? Are we weak? Do we lack the willpower gene? Is there something wrong with us?

No, no to all of the above.

This MO is not an indicator of our worth or strength of character. It is possibly an adaptive behaviour that we’ve developed throughout our life without even realising it.

I did a video on the topic where I share my experience. You can watch it on Instagram or Facebook.

The good news is that any behaviour can be changed. But be warned, changing this one will unlikely look or feel revolutionary, quite the opposite 🙂 And that’s a good thing!

So let’s give it our best shot by approaching the situation from a place of SELF-SUPPORT, not self-criticism.


If you would like support on journey, I offer 1-2-1 coaching as well as an online group experience, The Confidence Bootcamp. Book your free discovery session today!