What is the best way to support someone going through a tough time? Many, many years ago, a colleague lost a loved one. Let's call her Annabelle. I was devastated to hear the news, and I really liked Annabelle, we used to have lunch together, go to yoga classes sometimes, etc. And yet, all I […]
Many of us strive to reach and maintain high standards in our personal and professional life. We want to be the best versions of ourselves. We want healthy lifestyles, meaningful careers, fulfilling relationships and the list goes on. But how do you know when high standards become unrealistic expectations? Nothing is ever good enough It's […]
There are things we can only learn from experience but in my experience, we can save ourselves a few heartaches with some simple mindset shifts. If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I’ve been open and candid about my struggles with insecurities. Some of them were about my physical appearance, sure, but […]
I remember a time where I would cite "perfectionism" as one of my weaknesses at job interviews. I thought it was such a clever response, it might as well have been code for "I have incredibly high work standards". Who wouldn't want that? Right? Over a decade later, perfectionism is definitely something I would put in […]
I am no stranger to bullying As an overweight, very tall child, I was an obvious target for the resident meanies at school. Sumo, fat cow, whale were just some of the names I was called growing up. My reaction to name-calling was always one of bravado, or humour, depending on the day. In public, […]
In the 1990s already, some of the biggest companies became interested in what personal capabilities determined both high performance and leadership. While technical skills and IQ were found to be important, researchers found emotional intelligence (EQ) to be twice as important at every level of the company, regardless of level of seniority. One of the […]
Most organisations today recognise the value of cultivating Emotional Intelligence (EQ) in their workforce. Scores of studies have shown that people with high EQ tend to perform better, get along better with their colleagues and feel more fulfilled at work. But what does EQ mean in the workplace: should you be able to separate your […]
Practical tips to help you overcome self-oriented perfectionism and self-critical inner dialogue, and increase self-loving confidence instead. When it comes to building genuine, long-term confidence, the number one challenge is dealing with self-doubt – that voice inside your head that plagues you with self-deprecating thoughts and regularly criticises you for what you do, how you do it, […]
Fed up with the dating scene? Unsure about your career? Should you try to find your passion? How about getting your own place? And what’s the deal with all these friends getting engaged? If it sounds familiar, welcome to your mid-twenties! You are SO not alone. Some call it a quarter life crisis but is […]
How do I stop being a people pleaser? As a recovering people pleaser, it was little uncomfortable writing this article. My approval-hungry behaviour started very early on. I thought I would get over it by the time I reached my 20s but to my disconcertment, it worsened! But to o stop people pleasing felt like […]
